Heat 1 1/2 inches of oil in fry pan to 350 degrees F. Meanwhile gather 3 dishes for batter set up. Place flour in first dish and season with 1 teaspoon salt and 1/2 teaspoon pepper. Place eggs in second dish. Place cornmeal in third dish and season with 1 teaspoon salt and 1/2 teaspoon pepper. Cut okra in 1/2-inch pieces and then begin 3-part batter, beginning with flour, then egg, and then cornmeal. Fry until golden brown and drain on paper towel. Serve with Summer Tomato Relish. For relish, toss all ingredients in bowl.
In a large bowl, mix all the ingredients together. Let sit for 1/2 hour to let the flavors mingle.