In a saucepan
, over medium heat, add the milk and butter. Season with salt and white pepper
. Bring the liquid to a boil. Slowly stir in the grits. Reduce the heat to medium low and continue to cook for about 1 hour or until the grits and tender and creamy, stirring every 10 minutes to prevent the grits from sticking. Add some water during the cooking process if the liquid evaporates to much. Remove from the heat and stir in the cheese. Reseason with salt and white pepper if needed. Set aside and keep warm. In a saute pan, over medium heat, heat the oil. Add the sausage
for 2 minutes. Add the garlic and saute for 30 seconds. Season the shrimp with salt and black pepper. Add the shrimp and continue to saute for 2 minutes. Remove the pan from the heat and add the sherry
. Place the pan back over the heat and flame the sherry, shaking the pan back and fourth several times until the flame dies out. Remove the shrimp from the pan and set aside. Add the stock
and bring the liquid to a boil. Reduce the heat to medium low and mount in the butter. Add the shrimp back to the sauce and simmer for 2 minutes. Remove from the heat and stir in 2 teaspoons of the parsley. To serve, spoon the grits in the center of each shallow bowl. Spoon the shrimp mixture over the grits
with the corn relish and remaining parsley.